I found out through a coworker that the store manager for a neighboring store, who barely knows me - feels the need to make comments about my tattoo's.
This person is usually pretty rude when they come to my store, but has talked to me a little before as they purchased their coffee.
My coworker went to the store, as their employees are rather friendly with us. The manager decided to tell my coworker that she thinks that my tattoo is extremely offensive, and that she doesn't want to shop in my store anymore. I saw her employee later and she related that it wasn't just me, she's horrified that my employer recently hired another man with tattoo's and piercings. As a Christian
, she was closed minded and felt like she didn't want to be subjected to such things.
Now, maybe I am sheltered a bit because I've been rather...alternative
for the entirety of my adulthood. I surround myself with artistic types and open minded people from all walks of life. My boyfriend and I have had people literally pull their kids in other directions because of the way we were dressed. (Not even offensively, just dark I guess?) I understand that doing things like having tattoo's and dressing weird are going to attract attention, but I am at a phase where it's so rare. When it happens it really kind of takes me back.
I have no offensive tattoo's. I have a star, a heart with my boyfriend's name, a pair of chef knives, the letter D, and a cross
. Yes, a cross was my first tattoo BTW...and the rest of it is related to life experiences that God was so kind as to bless me with.
The chef knives really seem to drive people batty. I think it's because they are so big. Apparently customers, and I imagine coworkers, feel the need to tell my coworker that they think my tattoo is stupid or ugly or not to their standard in some way. Other coworkers never talk to me directly of course, because this is mean spirited and cowardly behavior at it's finest. Guests comment all the time. One guy asked me if I liked to kill people. My body is my own.
I do not have naked demon babies or anything remotely offensive pictured on my body. I have chef knives. I am a culinary student, but more importantly I am passionate about food. (I plan on making my sleeve almost entirely food related.) If I did decide to tattoo naked demon babies or something offensive I imagine it still wouldn't be anyone's business. It's not like I crawled through anyone's window at night and tattoo'd naked demon babies on them while they were sleeping.
I am a Christian, and I think it's pretty judgey for another Christian to get all offended about something that has nothing to do with them and then talk maliciously about you. I imagine this kind of stuff doesn't amuse God that much. I seem to remember something about loving your neighbor and not throwing rocks or whatever.
I don't know what else to say really, besides that I probably need to pray for this person. I probably also need to ask God to continually grant me patience and help me be a better example than the grumpy one I usually am.
I'd like to come up with some kind of set phrase I can use when faced with rude or inappropriate comments about my body. I'd like for it not to be rude, but to be clear that I am not open to that sort of thing at all. Something I need to ponder.Anyway...updates to my main blog:Being True.
Thoughts on being extremely open on the internet.
God is not a genie.
Reflecting on where I am now, vrs. where I was when I became a Christian again.